I get asked quite a bit what the first things an engaged couple should do. Should they start making a guest list right away, can the bride start looking for dresses, how about making a rough budget?
Well, that's all fine and dandy..in due time. Here are the first steps I believe you should take down the exciting road of I Do.
Number one:
Breathe.
Yes, breathe. Take a few deep breaths and let it all sink in. You're getting married! You've found the love of your life and you're going to live happily ever after! (FYI this is a good thing to keep repeating to yourself later when things don't seem to be going as planned). Getting married is an exciting time and it should be full of joy and happiness. The best thing that you can do right now is revel in it and enjoy.
Number two:
Fantasize
Contrary to popular belief, I think instead of jumping in to budgets and checklists and not-so fun bits, I think you should close your eyes and imagine you had unlimited funds to work with. What does your dream wedding look like? What type of flowers are there? What are people eating? Is there a band or a DJ? Write it all down and have your fiance do the same. Later, compare your thoughts (try to keep from being too harsh with one another).The next step would be to realistically look at your budget and decide from there what are the most important elements to you. Can you live without a custom made gown and choose one off the rack? Are the exotic flowers necessary or would another locally grown type be just as lovely? Decide what you can live without. Make sure your keeping your fiance involved in this part as well. He's sure to have a few different opinions on whats most important to him. The best way to solve a disagreement over who's going to get their way? Leave it to chance. Draw straws, flip a coin, etc. Whoever doesn't win the first round gets an automatic win on the next agreement, so on so forth.
Number three:
Begin a rough guest list. Make a list of everyone under the sun that you'd like to invite. After establishing a budget, begin to cross off people you can live without being there. As hard as this can be, remember that every person you invite is another mouth to feed, water, and entertain and trust me that adds up..big time.
Number four:
Celebrate
Becoming engaged is an exciting thing and should most definitely be celebrated. If you have the means, have an engagement party. If not, find some way to mark this special moment, even if its just a simple champagne toast with your family. Enjoy this time..you won't regret it.
Spoiler Alert: Next tuesday I will begin discussing budget weddings and how to get the most out of your wedding dollars.
Well, that's all fine and dandy..in due time. Here are the first steps I believe you should take down the exciting road of I Do.
Number one:
Breathe.
Yes, breathe. Take a few deep breaths and let it all sink in. You're getting married! You've found the love of your life and you're going to live happily ever after! (FYI this is a good thing to keep repeating to yourself later when things don't seem to be going as planned). Getting married is an exciting time and it should be full of joy and happiness. The best thing that you can do right now is revel in it and enjoy.
Number two:
Fantasize
Contrary to popular belief, I think instead of jumping in to budgets and checklists and not-so fun bits, I think you should close your eyes and imagine you had unlimited funds to work with. What does your dream wedding look like? What type of flowers are there? What are people eating? Is there a band or a DJ? Write it all down and have your fiance do the same. Later, compare your thoughts (try to keep from being too harsh with one another).The next step would be to realistically look at your budget and decide from there what are the most important elements to you. Can you live without a custom made gown and choose one off the rack? Are the exotic flowers necessary or would another locally grown type be just as lovely? Decide what you can live without. Make sure your keeping your fiance involved in this part as well. He's sure to have a few different opinions on whats most important to him. The best way to solve a disagreement over who's going to get their way? Leave it to chance. Draw straws, flip a coin, etc. Whoever doesn't win the first round gets an automatic win on the next agreement, so on so forth.
Number three:
Begin a rough guest list. Make a list of everyone under the sun that you'd like to invite. After establishing a budget, begin to cross off people you can live without being there. As hard as this can be, remember that every person you invite is another mouth to feed, water, and entertain and trust me that adds up..big time.
Number four:
Celebrate
Becoming engaged is an exciting thing and should most definitely be celebrated. If you have the means, have an engagement party. If not, find some way to mark this special moment, even if its just a simple champagne toast with your family. Enjoy this time..you won't regret it.
Spoiler Alert: Next tuesday I will begin discussing budget weddings and how to get the most out of your wedding dollars.
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